I receive some really good questions. 🙂 Many times I have wondered about the same questions at different stages of my own development as a cartomancer.
The original question from part of M’s email is as follows:
“…Doing readings i found myself wondering why spreads or predictions about the love area have a tendency not to come out as seen.
Writing on different forums i notice i am not the only one struggling in this part. Are there some pointers to get better insight in this part of questions? Or is it just because love has to do almost only with changing emotions?
I hope you want to share your insights with me….”
I did provide some insights to M and part of my view is below.
“Thank you for your email.You have raised a very good question and one that I receive often.I have found when doing one’s own reading the cards reflect the energy around how one feels at the time of shuffle. The future is fluid (changeable) as is love.For a specific love/relationship question, I like to recommend shorter layouts with pre-determined positions.I agree that when one is in a loving relationship the cards will be more clear but that is only because there is clarity in the mind about the loving relationship. When uncertainties enter our psyche the cards will pick up on that as well.Specific questions that you think at the time of shuffle must be genuine and resonate with what you really want to know. Many people do not ask the cards what they really want to know. Often these people will have fears/doubts which they cover by asking a positive question. It’s like asking does he love me but deep down inside little doubts are floating through the mind of suspicion or mistrust.”
Two specific questions as per my request where emailed which included M’s interpretations. My thoughts on the cards and a few other things about posing questions at the time of shuffle are below. I do not which version of Lenormand was used which could have added a bit more information as I read directions as well.
1:Will I be in a committed relation in the upcoming 6 to 12 months?
Spread question 1:
“I see garden as me being a single person or just not settled at this moment. Together with birds I see dating or activities in my (love)life. The ship can have the meaning of someone in the distance but in this case I think its is more about movement. So I am leaning towards movement in my love so maybe there is going to come someone in my life that makes everything starts to move. Bouquet-Lily can be a secure relationship (bouquet happiness and luck something good is going to happen and lily is about support) So maybe a happy relation that starts to grow?”
IF SHIP IS TAKEN AS THE FOCAL CARD OF THIS LAYOUT IT DOES REFLECT MOVEMENT AS MENTIONED. THE ONLY WAY THE SHIP’S ENERGY IS CONNECTED TO COMMITMENT IS IF A GOAL OR DESTINATION IS CHOSEN.
FOR EXAMPLE, IF YOU GO ON A TRIP YOU USUALLY KNOW WHERE YOU ARE GOING. YOU MAY STOP AT DIFFERENT PLACES DURING YOUR TRAVELS BUT FOR THE MOST PART A DESTINATION (TRIP agenda) IS ESTABLISHED.
THE QUESTION ABOUT A COMMITMENT 6-12 MONTHS SHOWS THE MAP (route)TOWARDS THE DESIRED OUTCOME. BOUQUET + LILY FOLLOWING THE SHIP CARD LEANS TOWARD a yes ANSWER. IN FACT, THE KING OF SPADES COULD VERY WELL BE A MAN WITH A PLEASANT DISPOSITION.
LILY ALSO MIRRORS THE PARK (garden) suggesting he is already known to M. in some capacity as PARK can mean out in the open. To me, THE BIRDS CARD AS A CONTRIBUTING ENERGY POINTS TO some concerns/worry on how to go with the flow (ship) of things at the current time. In simpler terms,THE FLOW will take its own destination if M is willing to accept invitations (bouquet) that provide the opportunities for a harmonious (lily) affirmative reply.
➡ Let’s suppose that 12 or so months have passed and M is not in a committed relationship. Does that mean the above prediction is wrong? I don’t think so because at the time of shuffle, this is what was asked and most likely desired. If M, changes her mind about commitment then the reading will not come to pass but guaranteed that opportunities would have been there.
THE ENERGIES ARE SET UP WHEN YOU HAVE A GENUINE DESIRE with the intention of SOME SORT OF follow up APPLIED ACTIONS to reach your goal. You need to be clear about what you want and why you want it and how it will be in the highest good of all which is sometimes a karmic lesson (topic for another post for sure). You cannot just sit at home wishing. THE UNIVERSE (general term) SETS UP OPPORTUNITIES via SYNCHRONICITY. We may think we made it happen and up to a certain point we did by having that thought energy.
If M, has doubts and fears about this commitment coming to pass, the Universe will also set that up to reinforce her thought energy. There is a lot of different and strong views on this way of looking at things (to be covered in another post).
Since the post has become lengthy I will continue with some more thoughts on the first question only.
If you covet the desired outcome (want it really bad) it could slip through your fingers. To covet something or someone has some negative connotations. You can yearn for a person or an outcome to a question but it has to come from a pure heart. When you come from a pure heart you do not want to hurt anyone in the process.
➡ Most importantly, you need to release the desired outcome and not hold on to it too tightly.
Wanting to be in a committed relationship within a year is a rather normal goal for many who perhaps are sick and tired of not having some sort of security with a relationship connection. But would you really want the other person to commit just to make you happy and they are not. A lot of people do this. They commit to a relationship but are not into it wholeheartedly. In my view, there needs to be freedom of individuality and a common ground of understanding.
The cards in the above reading show opportunities which will lead to the desired outcome. If the question was just in passing (out of curiosity) with little emotional attachment to it the cards are suggesting a positive answer. Positive meaning yes.
Your thoughts and feelings are important at the time of shuffle and asking questions. Like I said, by being genuine and true to yourself during the shuffle and the cards will answer that question.